There are no hard and fast rules laid down that you or your swinging partner need to follow when you enter into a swinger’s lifestyle, however there are a few things that we recommend to you and your partner that you must follow:
Enter the swinging lifestyle as a couple – By being couples it does not mean that you need to be compulsorily married, but should very least have a little history together.
Be familiar with each others’ emotional needs and wants - this is the most important rule to follow when it comes to feeling comfortable around other couples approaching you for a swing.
Have good communication skills– this is critical in a swinger’s lifestyle because you need to be clear about what you and your partner are doing and why are you doing so.
Confidence and comfort comes first – you and your partner must have confidence in each other when being approached by others. If this is not achieved, jealousy will inevitably occur (see dealing with jealousy). You should be aware of each others comfort levels when swinging with other couples. If you or your partner is uncomfortable with a situation or activity, it should be put a full stop to immediately.
The thumb rule in swinging is that couples should view swinging as a form of enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than to help replace a failed one. Swinging is only a social activity for both partners to enjoy and experience together.